It’s not because they’re geeks or they’re ugly; quite the contrary. Several of the junior high moms keep asking my 13-year-old to convince their own girls of that fact, because they feel their girls are too boy crazy. I’ve written about this before, and we are definitely not all in agreement on this one, because many people don’t see anything harmful in dating when kids are teens.
They’ve both been asked out many times, but they both give the same answer. It helps prepare them for real relationships, so the story goes. Josh Harris’ book I Kissed Dating Goodbye changed my mind, but it was only the first in a number of things that did it.
In fact, perhaps even because you seriously love each other.All those legitimate feelings have nowhere to go, because you can’t marry yet. When you date a lot, you often leave same-sex friendships by the wayside, and these are the years that you need to learn how to be a good friend. Similarly, if you date a lot, you may decline other important things, like going on missions trips, or taking jobs, or doing some ministry you might love, because the person you’re dating isn’t involved. We can discuss more in the comments, if you’d like, but I frequently get moms “in real life” asking how I got my girls to agree not to date, and so I’d like to share it with you moms “in cyber space”.My two girls are often the envy of some of the other moms in the youth group for one reason–they both have sworn off dating until they’re 18.(Here’s a video of my 16-year-old talking about why she’s not dating in high school).Your kids likely have friends who all want to date, and it’s very hard to go against the tide unless you’ve been brought up to believe that that’s what you would do.