My friend Marla used to believe that meeting a man was as easy as following her bliss.After she and her long-term boyfriend broke up, Marla decided to pursue the interests she had neglected when she was in a relationship. I made some wonderful friends and expanded my horizons."Here's a little-known fact: One out of every two people is a guy!" says an exasperated 32-year-old Newark, New Jersey, panelist for Answerology.com, a Web site that aims to bridge the communication gulf between the sexes. Acting classes are filled with gorgeous nymphets and men who make great shopping buddies.But if he makes you laugh, you may be willing to put up with the occasional bout of insecurity. Even if you know nothing about the game, you can still enjoy sitting outside on a summer night with a bag of peanuts and a hot dog.And breaking the ice is easy: A simple "Your routine was hilarious" (preceded, of course, by hearty laughter) should do the trick. The beer line should be packed with fans; so get behind a cute one and ask him about his favorite team, advises a 39-year-old from Vancouver. Next Saturday night take a bunch of your girlfriends to a nightclub that hosts local bands. If you've been meaning to do some meet-and-greets as a way of boosting your career, here's some added incentive: Business conferences and seminars are filled with smart, ambitious men with whom you can talk shop.She took acting lessons, joined a book club, and became devoted to yoga. My new pursuits nourished my soul, but I have to say they did zip for my love life." Marla realized that if she wanted to start dating again, she'd have to think a bit more strategically.
The big drawback of music clubs, of course, is that the noise level can make it hard to hold a conversation. Just be sure to check his left hand for a ring or tell-tale tan line. While the Red Cross does not release statistical data on the male/female ratio of blood donors, any guy who would give up his own body fluids to help out a stranger has got to be a quality date."Business events often include a certain number of men who are looking for an extra-marital fling," says Atwood. And even if you don't meet an altruistic hottie, you've helped save a life. After you've made your deposit, hang out by the snack table and ask a light-headed cutie whether he recommends Oreos or Cheese-Its as his strength-builder of choice. You'll find a slightly geeky crowd here, but that's OK.Better yet, join a softball league -- you're sure to find a wide array of physically fit boys of summer. You'll find them right up on stage: clusters of men, pouring their hearts out, trying to impress you. Tortured artists are dazzling on stage, but can be a drag in real life. "Strike up a conversation around your mutual business interests, then ask ' How did you get to where you are today?On the other hand, a nice middle manager (during the day) indulging in some innocent rock-star fantasies (by night) could be just the ticket. ' You'll learn about his path of life so far, including education and goals," says Nina Atwood, author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996).With the help of Answerology creator Matt Milner, we've asked men from around the country to tell us where the heck they are—and the easiest ways to meet them! Your average stand-up class, on the other hand, is a festival of testosterone.
True, comedians have a tendency to be emotionally needy and self-centered.